It is easy to feel alone.
I spent several years working as a Single Adult Pastor in North Texas, and my father was the Associate Pastor of Singles & Evangelism at the church I grew up at for over 15 years. I’ve had experience with people who struggle with being alone.
Something I’ve learned, however, is that being married does not alleviate the feeling of emptiness that many (more than you might think) struggle with. I’ve found many people surprised by the fact that they can have a spouse, several kids, friends, and still feel alone.
Many of our motivations for finding “Mr./Miss. Right” and getting married was because of our desire to alleviate the pain of looniness. That pain isn’t always sharp and catastrophic, more like a nagging headache that is there, and is bothersome, but it’s not all-consuming unless there’s nothing else to think about. It comes as a shock to people, after they have married their “prince/princess charming” and even had a few kids, when they sit in the quiet and realize that loneliness is still with them.
Married or single, we are all alone in this world. People will let you down and disappoint you. Achievements will not satisfy for long, and money actually cannot buy happiness for more than a little while. While some seek to alleviate “the void” with a significant other, many also try to be successful and find security in money, it just doesn’t work.
Remember that the most important person in the world (kosmos) is Jesus Christ. Seek after him, allow him to fill that “emptiness” in your life. Love Him by loving His church – that’s how people will know you’re a believer, and remember our Lord’s words:
Keep your life free from love of money (stuff), and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
Heb 13:5
